Module 5 – Illuminate Your Speech

Sharing 6 Key Concepts:

1^st Concept – Communication as Talking, Speaking, Dialoguing – whats the difference? I vs We — Talk to Conquer vs Talk to Connect?

2^nd – What’s driving the communication? What’s underneath, yours and theirs? Unmet need?  Get it / Fix it?  (Validation / Solutions?)

3^rd – Which Chakra are you speaking from?

4^th — Embracing the Power of the Generative Word.

Declarations, Invocations, Incantations, Mantras, Vows^5th – The Power of Deep Listening, Presence & Acknowledgment

VIDEO TRANSCRIPT:

Aloha Beloveds,

Now that you are exercising more mastery over your Multidimensional Self, your emotions and your thoughts, the next step is to cultivate mastery with the expression of these as embodied in your Spoken Word.

Your Word is one of your birthright gifts, it’s one of your most powerful God given tools, and is crucial for creating your ideal reality and manifesting your will on Earth.

For many people, communication consists of a limited scope and low vibration.

A lot of it is actually  —  strategizing, manipulating, avoiding, defending, blaming, shaming, judging, surviving, and just describing.

• They describe their day, the weather, their neuroses, their complaints about others.

All this low vibe communication leaves people at the effect of their world, with little agency.

But What if you could communicate on a higher level;

and speak and listen in a way that evoked Power, Possibility, Freedom and Richness for both you and others?

This would be Conscious Languaging and Communication, which is an art form, a science, and a crucial skill set.

It is the access to greater Freedom, Power, Prosperity, Manifestation, as well as Intimacy and Authentic Relating, Magic and so much more.

I’ve studied this field extensively, mainly from the lens of Landmark Education, Tony Robbins, and also Kundalini Yoga, and will be sharing 5 key concepts with you now.

• 1^st Concept – Communication as Talking, Speaking, Dialoguing – whats the difference?

I vs We — Talk to Conquer vs Talk to Connect?

• 2^nd – What’s driving the communication? What’s underneath, yours and theirs?

Unmet need?  Get it / Fix it?  (Validation / Solutions?)

• 3^rd – Which Chakra are you speaking from?
• 4^th — Embracing the Power of the Generative Word.

Invocation, Incantation, Mantras, Vows

• 5^th – The Power of Deep Listening, Presence & Acknowledgment

Ok. 

So 1^st Concept – comes from Yogi Bhajan, where he says there are 3 main ways to speak to communicate —  Talking, Speaking, Dialoguing – whats the difference?

Talking.

Have you ever been just talked at? 

Where it’s as if it doesn’t even matter if the listener is there or not?

So this first mode is like when someone is just spewing their wants, needs and agenda on someone else; with no consideration of if it’s landing, how it’s landing or whats happening in the others’ world.  It can be a painful experience, like the conqueror and conquered; like very “I, I, I”, instead of “We.”

The second mode is Speaking. This is when both parties have a basic relay, and they can basically understand each other.  There is a We. It can be very transactional, can be neutral, can be positive.  

And then there’s the third mode, which is creating Dialogue.

Yogi Bhajan describes Dialogue as that sweet zone when two people are communicating in the same frequency, at the same moment, with the same passion, same compassion, same individuality and identity. 

At a high level, it’s like an intercourse where it feels like communication is happening very effortlessly, gracefully, like there’s a flow and harmony. Where there’s a merge of intelligence and consciousness, heart and mind meeting.  Experience of oneness, grace, and time disappearing.

So check in when you are communicating, and see if you are “talking to conquer” or “talking  to cultivate relationship and mutuality”? 

Is it all about I or We?

Are you talking with passion to make your point, or compassion, to understand their side as well and meet them in mutuality?

2^nd – What’s driving the communication?

What’s beyond the words, and underneath it, both yours and theirs?

Sensitize yourself to hear whats really being said and wanted.

 For example — One of the first things you can do is ask them or yourself  – WAIT – is this a get it / fix it?

Do you want to just feel heard (in which case, you would just listen with no interruption, and perhaps mirror back exactly what they said?)

OR do you want help in fixing something (in which case, you would help problem solve and make suggestions and give advice?)

 A lot of couples get into problems because oftentimes women just want to talk and feel  heard,

While men tend to hear something and want to fix it.

So first, discern or ask, if something is a Get it / Fix it?

 Also, feel into what is the greater unmet need they are wanting, in general?

 Do they want to feel validated? Acknowledged? Seen? Heard? Understood? Appreciated? Guided? Comforted? Reassured?).. Finally loved?

What is it?

For example, they could be saying, Hey honey, did you take the trash out? How was your day? Do you want something to eat? How do you want your eggs cooked? Etc.

While underneath all their communications, they could actually be constantly asking you —

Do you love me?

Or Am I okay?

Or I cant stand you.

Or Are you mad at me? Etc.

When I investigated this in my 20’s, when I was a people pleaser, I saw that underneath a lot of my communications, was the sentence:  Am I okay? Am I safe? Are you going to hurt me? 

So sensitize yourself to find out what is underneath your own communication,

And also what is underneath those you interact with?

And respond from there, rather than just the surface.

For ex, I had a really insecure partner at one point, so he could be asking –

hey, where are you going? Who are you going with?

And I knew that underneath it, he was actually asking – hey do you love me?

Are you going to leave me?

And so instead of responding I’m going to the grocery store, I would respond —

Hey, I love you so much. I adore you. I need to run this errand and then I’ll be right back.

3^rd – Which Chakra are you/ they speaking from?

 So chakras are like energy hubs in the body, and each one has a certain focus and theme. 

Very quickly:

ROOT Chakra – Safety, security, survival

SACRUM – passion, creativity, sexuality

SOLAR PLEXUS – mastery, self agency, willpower

HEART – loving, forgiving, giving, receiving

THROAT – speaking one’s truth, manifesting ones word

THIRD EYE – intuition, wisdom

CROWN – connection with Source, divinity

 So when you’re speaking or listening to others, start paying attention to which chakra you / they are speaking from

 Some obvious examples – think about when someone at a nightclub has been trying to pick you up, they might have been speaking from their Sacral Chakra.

Now perhaps remember a time when you were at college and a professor was lecturing to you at a philosophy class or something like that, they may have speaking from their Crown Chakra

 So again, sensitize yourself and practice listening beyond the words, feeling into which chakra someone may be speaking from.

Also, for example – I used to always teach strongly from my HEART chakra, and I was often overflowing with love for my students and my classes were always warm and nurturing. The downside of that was that it indulged my shadow aspects as a people pleaser and over emphasizing Me being loved and admired.

 As I continued to mature and develop as a teacher, I learned to teach from the other chakras as well – from my Navel Point, from my Solar Plexus, from my Third Eye, etc.

 The classes became less about me making my students feel good, and became more about being able to deliver the message, and guide people to grow thru hardship, difficulty, tough love and wise compassion as well as with Unconditional Love. 

 So be aware of where you are directing your communication from.

In addition, here’s a little tip, if you want to impact/ influence someone, you can project your frequency strongly from your third eye point into theirs…

That’s another reason why it’s good to get used to setting your frequence and intention and beaming it out from your third eye point. Because the one with the stronger frequency will generally win. 

This brings us to the

4^th point — Embracing the Power of the Generative Word.

This kind of language is the most powerful, magical, and GODLY, as it creates a new reality from nothing.

So Rather than just survive or describe one’s neurosis, or be at the effect of the world around them, Generative Speech takes on a godly quality and creates a new reality.

Examples of this include

Declarations, Invocations, Mantras, Incantations, Vows.

So here are some more specific examples of this –

Declarations —

In the first line of the first book of the Bible – Genesis, God said,  “Let there be Light.” And Light came across the land.

Or another common declaration we all know is: “I now pronounce you Man & Wife.” And a whole new reality then opens up for that couple.

Ex of an Invocation – (also a mantra)

Ong Namo Guru Dev Namo – I bow to and invoke my subtle infinite wisdom to be present now.

Or in a Christian example —  “I call upon the power of the Holy Spirit to heal this person now!”

Or in some indigenous cultures, how they begin with calling upon the 4 directions.

MANTRAS

Well Mantras are like spells, they are exalted frequencies.

They go beyond and reach into another dimension.

I pretty much listen to mantras 24 seven.

For me, they are like White Magic, and I would rather have my brain and being focus on these exalted frequencies then default lower vibration crap.

Like – Ong Namo Guru Dev Namo invokes Wisdom & Guidance

The Mangalan Charan invokes Protection

Ra Ma Da Sa invokes Healing

Sat Nam invokes Truth

Bahota Karam is a Millionaire Mantra

Even Thank You can be a Mantra.  Saying thank you, thank you, no matter what, is an exalted frequency. 

Ex of an Incantation —

It’s like a mantra charged up with passion and emotional intensity and focus

I’ll share with you an Incantation that was done a lot at the Tony Robbins’ events —  they had a certain Incantation that we chanted several times a day, it was:

Now I am the voice

I will lead, not follow

I will create, not destroy 

I will believe, not doubt

I am a force for good

Set a new standard 

Step up!

And they gave that to us on little cards to keep in our wallets and recite with passion and conviction every day

Ex of A Vow –

A common conscious vow  is “I take you to be my Husband/ Wife”

An unconscious vow would be for example when I was 8, and I was cleaning apts with my mother till  am because I couldn’t bear to have her do it by herself.  So my unconscious vow was – I vow to be with you in your suffering, I will not abandon you.

But then now here I am 42 years old with my own son, and I found myself feeling compelled to keep visiting my mother and leaving my young son alone…

Anytime I do something compulsively, I start to investigate why;

And Once I realized the outdated, subconscious vow that was underneath my compulsion,

I consciously broke it and created a new vow —

— I vow to cherish and take care of myself and my son first and foremost.

So whenever you feel a compulsion, like you have no control or you have hit a ceiling of some kind, there’s usually an outdated, old vow that needs to get broken; and a new one to be made.

More on this in the HW.

So let me ask you —  what would your life would look like if you used more of this High Caliber Quality of Communication in your daily life?

Instead of just using words to describe your day, your partner, your job, your complaints, etc.; which traps you into a default autopilot existence where you are a victim and at the effect of the world,

What if you wielded the power of your Word to create the Reality you daily step into?

To declare who you are and what you stand for in your lifetime?

To invoke help and protection from unseen legions of angels,

To use incantations to program your subconscious mind to work FOR you, not against you?

To make worthy vows that empower you and open up new blessings, instead of limiting you?

Let there be light! Let there be Love! Let there be Abundance! May it be so!

When I was immersed in Landmark Education, we practiced this generative power of the word constantly.

Every day we declared who we are.

For example, at the courses, instead of saying our names, where we’re from, or what we do; —

we would introduce ourselves by standing up on stage in front of hundreds of people and make a Declaration like this –

“Who I am is the Possibility of being Unconditional Love, Wisdom and Compassion”

Or

“Who I am is the Possibility of Being an Enlightened World that works for everyone”

We got comfortable generating and trying on new possibilities all the time, and trafficking in these realms of manifestation 24/7.

We learned to see our Word as sacred and inviolable,

and to not only KEEP our word, but to BE our Word. To stake our whole life on it.

I learned to be so in integrity and so rigorous with my word that I trained myself and the environment to manifest whatever I spoke into existence. To speak out a new possibility like throwing a hat over a fence, and then mobilizing all one’s resources to keep one’s word no matter what.

Imagine being so in integrity with your Word that when you say “I will make $20k a month,” that that has no choice but to appear. Or “I will travel to the Amazon by myself and study with Shamans” (which I did) or “I will write a book in 9 weeks” (which I did) and just make it happen because you know yourself as your word.

OK 5^th  concept – Going beyond the Spoken Word. 

The Power of Deep Listening & Presence

So it doesn’t matter how eloquent and articulate you are,

Words are just words, if you don’t potentiate them, if you dont cultivate the power of presence and truth behind them.

Ex: when people say talk is cheap. No, its more like people cheapen talk.

But lets choose not to.

So besides verbal communication, I invite you to cultivate your powers of deep listening and presence.

Most people don’t really listen; they maybe half-listen, while in their head they are already figuring out their response, or perhaps the counter point they want to make.

This actually prevents intimacy and the person feeling truly heard and understood. So their complaint or issue will often persist. 

In my different trainings, I learned how to empty my mind, release any ego or agendas, and to just be present with nothing to prove and nothing to add or fix.

And also to listen so deeply that people that they would feel truly heard perhaps for the first time, and even feel healed, clearer, and lighter.

To listen to a complain so deeply that it disappears. 

And to acknowledge someone so deeply that it can heal their deepest wounds…

You will be practicing this in the HW, by the way, so that you can do this too.

Ok, that’s it for now, thanks for listening.